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Now What? Rediscovering Yourself After Divorce

You had a vision; a picture of what the rest of your life was going to look like.
Now, that image has been significantly altered.
 

Perhaps you are feeling relieved that it is over but also wondering ‘where do I go from here?’.  Or maybe you are left feeling like everything that you knew to be true and real in your life just fell a part.  Maybe it is as if you’ve lost your identity and you are wondering if you will ever rediscover yourself.  

Take a breath and know that this is one chapter but it’s not your whole book.   You have the opportunity now to write the next chapter.  If you are willing to reclaim your power and write a new story the best place to start is by creating a vision for the new life you would love to live.

Simply start by identifying those old dreams that maybe have gotten put on a shelf.  Consider the activities that give you joy, the places in the world you’ve always wanted to visit.  That course you wanted to take, or causes you wanted to contribute to.   Give yourself permission to start dreaming again. 

Without a vision we continue to return to the past – dwelling in the hurt, the despair, and the anger which perpetuates that experience.  To create a new result it requires shifting your thinking and beginning to accept new thoughts and ideas as viable possibilities.  Your current conditions are not an indication of your future, so what would you love your new story to be, begin writing that new future by asking yourself the powerful question “what would I love?”

Successful people also know that fear and failure are part of life’s journey and we must have the willingness to get the learnings and get back up. 

Lastly, you don’t have to do this alone; ask for help and seek support.  Successful people have mentors or coaches and surround themselves with people that can see their potential, and encourage them to continually grow and expand.  Embrace help as you begin writing this new chapter of life and rediscover you

Are you ready to begin the next chapter of your life but aren’t sure where to start?
Book a complimentary Strategy Session with Life Coach, Stacey Berger today

As a sought after life coach and professional speaker Stacey Berger offers inspiring workshops to sold-out audiences internationally as well as transformational in-depth coaching programs that help clients achieve new heights of success, meaning, and spiritual aliveness.

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