Divorce is life changing, not life ending
Divorce is hard. Really hard. It affects almost all areas in our lives and cracks us wide open to a massive range of emotions we just aren’t used to feeling in such an intense way. This puts us on a roller coaster of emotions that is exhausting and often painful.
I call it a roller coaster because we feel this range emotions so strongly and go back and forth between them quickly, creating major highs and major lows. It's these highs and lows and the feeling of getting whipped around or being out of control that reminds me of a rollercoaster.
In the beginning, the lows can be extremely low, and the highs can be extremely high. The lows include fear, hurt, shame, guilt, resentment, anger, and more. The highs include feelings of freedom, joy, relief, excitement. When you feel great, you feel great! When you feel awful, you feel broken and like you'll feel like this forever….
But you CAN get off this emotional rollercoaster. You CAN build tolerance and capacity. You CAN heal the shame and guilt, release the anger and resentment. You CAN start living the life you've always seen yourself living. You CAN live confident and happy and free.
Waiting for you after divorce is a life of connection, confidence, freedom, peace, The list goes on and on. It is a choice though. You must make a conscious choice to do different, to be different, to live different. And often this is not something we can do alone.
At Healing You First Coaching I help women during and after divorce get off the emotional rollercoaster. I help women recognize and heal things deep within themselves so they can finally step into being the woman they want to be and are proud to be. A woman with boundaries and confidence. A woman who knows and understands herself on the deepest level and is living her life full of confidence, joy, and freedom from her patterns and stories that limited her.
If you are a woman experiencing divorce or who has experienced divorce and your life still isn’t what you want it to be, let’s dive into why that is and change it.
This article was written by Nicki Laberge and featured in the Spring 2025 issue of Life Changes & Divorce Magazine Canada.
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Nicki Laberge
Trauma-informed coach and certified Root Cause Therapy practitioner
Healing You First Coaching
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Meet the Author - Nicki Laberge
Nicki Laberge is a trauma-informed coach and certified Root Cause Therapy practitioner dedicated to empowering women through her platform, Healing You First Coaching. Drawing from her personal experience with divorce, Nicki offers one-on-one coaching, group sessions, and workshops designed to help women navigate the emotional challenges of divorce. Her approach focuses on building emotional resilience, uncovering and releasing limiting beliefs, and guiding clients toward a confident, vibrant life.
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